Mummy Moments

Hi again sorry I seem to not get here as often as I would like but hopefully when I do put something on here it's useful in some way.

Today I want to talk about being a mum. 

At this time in my 'mummy career' I am feeling a little tired and deflated and sometimes wish I could change to a new 'office' and start again somewhere else!

I have three children, each one seems to be going through some change or another. 

The oldest is 11 and is going through a huge testosterone stage. He can be quite nasty and feral really. He is mostly verbal and its hard to be around him sometimes. 

The middle child is 10, she is also having off days and seems to cry at the smallest things. Her brother took a blanket from her room and we had tears for ages after that! Her dad can't say boo to her without tears....aahhhh.

The youngest is almost 8 and seems to be grumpy a fair bit too. I think it has a lot to do with the older ones moods brushing off on him but I do remember the 10 year old was similar around the same age.

Some days it would be nice to do this!

Yes these are the 'days of our lives'. We are 'young and restless' around here. There is a lot going on and some days I think, what did I do to deserve this? Other days I just out right don't know what to do or say to fix it and other days I seem to find the answer. When it's up to us mum's to care for the kids most of the time on our own, it can become draining and we can wear out. I happened to visit with a friend who has been through this stage with her kids and really encouraged me to keep doing things the way I have been because I am on the right track. It can be hard to know if you are 'winning' when you are seeing no clear results. Sometimes we need the encouragement from another person to see we are doing okay.
If you are like me and don't have a lot of support and your kids are not behaving the best, don't loose heart  dear mum. Keep strong and know this is just a season that will pass,  just stay strong and stand your ground. Try not to get blown around too much by the kids or on lookers who only want' to criticize your parenting skills and offer no encouragement or support. Always remember God gave you the kids he did because He knew you are well equipped to raise them the way He wants them to be raised.
Never feel you are alone and the only one going through whatever is happening in your home. You would probably be surprised how many other homes are just as crazy as mine can be.
Be encouraged my friend. God is watching and knows you are doing the best you know how, and want's you to know He is with you every step of the way.

I know I am a great mum and I know in my heart we all are just doing what we know to do.
I pray you never assume you know better than the next person in how to raise another persons child. May you see where you can offer hope and encouragement to someone else and most of all, I pray that you get that encouragement and support that you need.

Raw and Real

As I sit here I have a little sadness in my heart. I have just had a raw and emotional time, a heart to heart with my God. Tears have flowed and a lot of things have been released.
For years I have lived on empty, trying to do everything on my own and have put myself last for longer than I should. I guess today was just the overdue breaking point. For God to do a work in me I had to get here. It's my own doing. No one else has chosen my path but me. When you try to do life your way you end up at a dead end and stay there until you see that it was the wrong way that you went.
I have not managed to do a post for a while due to being too tired. I have been to doctors over the years to find out why but each time nothing seems to be resolved. I have made an appointment for next week and I am believing for answers this time. I am empty, and almost burnt out, it's time it was sorted out.
The whole point in this blog has been for me to show the raw side of me. Truth and nothing but the truth.
I have been talking to a friend about how as women we have a mask we show the world and we only take it off for some people. Only those we love and trust see the real us. There is more satisfaction in showing people what they want to hear and see than there is with showing raw and real. I am completely guilty of this myself. I rarely show that I am struggling or don't have my life under control. It's exhausting keeping up the lies. Unfortunately we women have bought into Satan's lies. We believe the lies, and live doing things in our own strength and show nothing but perfection. I am feeling more and more that a time is coming where we women will be stronger in our relationships than we have been before. For this to happen we need to let our walls down. We need to show the real us. The woman inside you and me is acceptable and lovable, even with all the ugly truths we never show anyone. We are going to get our breakthrough ladies. Its coming, we just need to do our part.
The Holy Spirit revealed to me, I hadn't really accepted that Jesus was enough for me. His dying on the cross was everything I needed and for me to get my breakthrough I had to lay every burden down at the foot of the cross and say to Jesus.
'Thank you Jesus for showing me raw and real. The stripes on your back, the thorns in your head and the blood you shed, were not in vain. You did all of these things for me, so I didn't have to carry life's burdens. I thank you Jesus for giving me somewhere to release them so I could find peace an comfort. You have shown me a love nothing can compare with. A love that is ever present and gives me strength when I need it. I am sorry I tried to do things in my own strength for so long. I am sorry I bought into Satan's lies for so long. I see where I have done you wrong and lay it all at the foot of your cross. I love you Jesus and thank you for for the love you have given me."

Ladies don't be like me and keep going down the wrong path. Stop where you are, thank Jesus for dying for you and for taking all your burdens with Him to the cross. Thank Him for giving you the answers to life and tell Him you are sorry for not seeing Him for who He really is. Most of all tell Him how much you love Him and need Him in your life.

Something to ponder

God is calling you

WHEN YOU'RE TIRED AND WEARY, AND DON'T KNOW WHERE TO TURN, WHEN YOUR HEART HAS BEEN BROKEN, AND YOUR LIFE IS UPSIDE DOWN, WHEN THE HOPES AND PLANS AND DREAMS YOU'VE HAD, HAVE ALL FADED INTO DUST, THEN WHO'S THE ONLY ONE THAT YOU CAN TRUST?

RUN TO ME WHEN YOU'RE LONELY, RUN TO ME WHEN YOU'RE DOWN, RUN TO ME, FIND THE COMFORT AND THE SHELTER FROM THE STORM, WHERE NO ENEMY CAN TOUCH YOU, AND THE ENEMY MUST FLEE, COME TO ME AND FIND THE PEACE THAT IS REAL.

IT'S IN MY ARMS OF LOVE THAT YOU CAN HIDE FROM THE TRIALS AND TESTS AND STORMS, IT'S IN MY ARMS OF TENDERNESS THAT YOUR PROBLEMS ARE ALL GONE, IT'S IN MY ARMS OF LIFE AND LOVE THAT YOU WILL REALLY KNOW, THAT I'M THE ONE WHO REALLY CARES FOR YOU.


WHEN THE WORLD SEEMS DARK AND CRUEL, AND PEOPLE DON'T SEEM TO CARE, RUN TO ME MY PEOPLE,
YOU'LL FIND THAT I AM THERE, WHEN THE TRIALS AND TESTS AND SUFFERING JUST SEEM TOO MUCH TO BEAR, THEN TURN TO ME YOUR SAVIOUR, I'LL ALWAYS BE THERE.


IT'S IN THE TIMES OF TESTS AND TRIALS WHEN YOU'RE FEELING SO ALONE, THAT YOU NEED TO RUN TO FIND MY COMFORT AT MY THRONE, IT'S IN THE TIMES OF TESTS AND TRIALS THAT I'M REFINING YOU AS GOLD, IN THE WINEPRESS OF SUFFERING MY TRUE SONS ARE FORMED.


IT'S IN THE TIMES OF DESPERATION AND TIMES WHEN PEOPLE DON'T CARE, WHEN YOU FEEL SO REJECTED, THAT YOU TURN AND I'LL BE THERE, FOR I'M THE GOD OF ALL THINGS, WHO KNOWS YOUR EVERY NEED, WHEN I LOOK AT YOU MY PEOPLE, MY HEART BEGINS TO BLEED, BECAUSE YOU LOOK TO MAN FOR COMFORT, YOU LOOK TO MAN FOR PRAISE, YOU LOOK TO ONE ANOTHER TO FEEL MY LOVE AND PRAISE,
BUT THE PLACE THAT YOU WILL FIND THESE THINGS, IS ONLY IN MY ARMS, I'M THE GOD OF LOVE AND COMFORT, RUN TO ME, I'LL BE YOUR BALM, WHEN YOUR WOUNDED HEART AND PRIDE AND HURT, NEED BINDING UP WITH LOVE, THEN COME TO ME, I'LL HEAL YOU WITH MY COMFORT AND MY LOVE,

WHEN I SHOW YOU THINGS THAT NEED TO DIE IN YOU, I'M THE ONE WHO'LL TRULY SEE YOU THROUGH. FOR IT'S ONLY IN MY PRESENCE THAT THESE THINGS CAN BE DONE, SO COME INTO MY CHAMBERS, I'LL MAKE YOU LIKE MY SON, DON'T DESPISE THE TESTS AND TRIALS AND OBSTACLES YOU FACE, IT'S ONLY IN THE TIMES OF PAIN THAT YOU CAN TRULY SEEK MY FACE, SO DRAW TO ME NOW, FEEL MY LOVE AND GRACE.

 Thanks for this Linda Brown, we all need this reminder. Sometimes the world doesn't offer what we need because it's not meant to. If you have a heart thats empty and broken. If your life just plainly stinks. Or you are happy but know there must be more. Take it to Jesus, He died on the cross for you and want's to be everything you need. If you have never invited Jesus into your life then why not now. Just do it where you are. He is waiting and want's to show you He loves you and would do anything for you. You just need to believe.

Creative Mess

Okay so by now you would have noticed I have not been doing my daily "real life' photos. I kinda gave up because no one else wanted to join in on the fun. It was quite interesting to see how other people are the same as any one else. We can all make things look good but keeping it up can become exhausting after a while.

During the past few days I have been reflecting on how much being a neat freak has cost me. Usually I don't mind if something is left out for a while as long as it's put away at the end of the day but I now see how it has stopped my creative juices from flowing.
I am creative and love to scrapbook. It is my way of relaxing, socializing and expressing who I am.
The thing is I have not done it for a very long time. It has been one of those things I just don't want to do because of the mess. It involves getting a lot of stuff out and taking up room on the dining table or setting up my fold out table. It involves me making time for myself too. That can sometimes be hard for me to do. Once I start I get engrossed and just create. Things around me don't seem to be as important and I can get lost in my craft.
I get excited!
I am happy!

I have fun!
Sometimes as mums we get lost in the things that we need to do. There hardly seems any time for things we enjoy unless we sacrifice something else. I was born to create. That is a quality God put in me. He want's me to use it the best way I know how. I wasn't created to keep a perfect house and never make a mess. I was created to find ways to express who I am, pull things out and sometimes leave it all out to use the next day or a week later!

“Creativity is inventing, experimenting, growing, taking risks, breaking rules, making mistakes, and having fun.” — Mary Lou Cook

I have so much scrap booking supplies to get through so I have decided that this is the time to get through it. I even went shopping the other day and got some more.
I also have an expensive craft robo that I have hardly used since I bought it. It's time I had a look at what it can do other than look good in a box!


Are you a creative person stuck in the same mindset I have been? I am about to let it go and just create the way I love to. If you are the same why not leave a comment and share what you love to do. Why not share what has been holding you back too. 
Lets just go be who we love being. Life will still carry on and perhaps we will be a little bit happier in it!

Real life Day 2

So todays "real life' picture is of my boys room. I have two boys, one is 11 and the youngest is almost 8.  They have to share a room much to the annoyance of the 11 year old. They don't have the biggest room in the house but it's big enough to sleep in.
Unfortunately since they started sharing, this is how their room looks a lot.

Each of them has their own space for toys and clothes, but for some reason the neat pile of folded washing I give them to put away hardly reaches the draw it's to go in. The draws are always left open and the new carpet we put in can hardly be seen!

When I took this picture I opened the curtain so it would be lighter and my youngest was there with me. His comment was "mum don't open the curtain. Do you want everyone to see our messy room!"  I just laughed and thought how funny for him to say that. He has heard me too many times!

We can train our children to be who we want them to be but in the end they will be who they were meant to be. The mess in their bedroom is no indication of my parenting skills or an indication of who my boys are. They may have a few of their things lying around but it's not filthy, it's not smelly or disgusting.
It doesn't always stay like this. They do have to clean it up and now and then I go in and give it a 'mum' clean.

The worst part is they don't have a door that can be closed to hide it. When we painted we decided not to put it back on until we get new doors. It's hard to see sometimes but mostly I am just glad in my heart that I have two of the most amazing boys in my life and if I had no mess in that room, it would probably mean I don't have them.

Don't focus on the mess, focus on the person who made it and love them anyway.

No one's perfect really.....

Okay this is the challenge put on facebook by a couple of my friends

I love how Facebook can trick the world into believing how perfect your life is...you know all the pics of us with friends, all done up, perfect parenting skills.. Blah blah blah... So I am sending out a 7 day challenge... It's called this is really how it is pics..You gotta post pics of a messy house house, screaming kids, no make up and messy hair, skid dies in the toilet get my drift??... So go on expose yourself for who you really are!! Lol...

 This show my ironing board that had been out since I last ironed a couple of days ago.

This is my overflowing washing basket that I am working on today.

I will post over the next few days and show you how I really live. It's quite freeing to show your true self. This Blog for me has become a way of showing the world who I am and I guess I have come to a time in my life where I am happy to reveal who I am and let go of some of the 'baggage' we carry around for no reason.

Now it's your turn. Just do it. You now you wanna!!